“I don’t wanna rule the world, I just wanna run my life.” ~Janet Jackson
So what on earth does Janet Jackson have to do with personal finance? Well, I did this great exercise with one of my mentors recently trying to figure out exactly what it is that I believe deep down about m0ney. You know, “what’s my message” and all that.
So I’m sitting there struggling to put it all together in one cohesive statement. And you know what? Instead of words, a song popped into my head: Janet Jackson’s “Control.”
It was a total Eureka moment. The reason why I do this work is to help you to get CONTROL (sing it with me) over your financial life — over what what you spend and what you earn.
And not only that, but helping you to have control over yourself — your thoughts, your emotions, your actions — which is the ultimate form of freedom. When you can control your inner world, the outer world quickly follows.
When you have control of your finances, you’re free. You don’t have to stay in relationships you don’t like. You don’t have to stay in a job you can’t stand. You don’t have to suck up to people you don’t respect. You don’t have to take on clients you don’t like. You don’t have to wait for your 1-3% raise every year. You aren’t stuck living in a neighborhood you don’t like. You don’t have to live inauthentically, saying things you don’t mean to people you don’t like to get your basic needs met.
When you take control of your finances, you can start that business, get out of corporate, you can follow your desires, have exciting experiences that thrill you, you can contribute to causes and organizations that change the world. You have options! You’re not at the mercy of external forces. You’re no longer a victim!
You’re the owner. Control = choice. Choice = freedom.
And yet, control has a negative connotation. Sometimes it conjures up images of shackles or a clenched fist. Or “control freak.” We think “control” means loss of freedom. Giving up the fun stuff. We think “control” means the party’s over. No more spending. Cat food for dinner.
But really, we’ve got it backwards and Janet Jackson’s got it right. Control is a great thing especially when things are completely out of whack. It gives you your life back.
Sure you can’t control everything that happens around you, but you can absolutely control yourself. And if your finances aren’t working, it’s time to look within. Especially when it comes to how you think, act and feel when it comes to m0ney.
Janet, anything else to add?
“So make your life a little easier
When you get the chance, just take
Control, ooh, ooh”
Amen sister. Make your life easier by taking back your control. Your life doesn’t work when your power lies in the hands of others. Making the decision to get a hold of your finances is not a prison sentence. It’s a get out of jail free card.
Commit to getting your finances under control and give yourself permission to get all the help you need.
The freedom and the relief on the other side is extraordinary.
I’m here to help you do whatever it takes to get there.